Growing from your abuse is this messy, confusing journey. I consider myself a recovering survivor, but I think there’s this assumption that my abuse was yesterday; it was 2 years ago. And sometimes I feel embarrassed that I’m still healing, and still learning how to trust others. For my personal journey, I’ve noticed that the … Continue reading Suvivor’s Shame & Radical Self-Compassion
They didn’t have my major They gave me $500 for a full 4 years I couldn’t afford it I wanted to be closer to home My rapist also got in, and I just couldn’t do it I didn’t think I would fit in I couldn’t afford it A professor I wanted to work with was … Continue reading Why didn’t you go?
I purport myself as an honest, transparent person and I try to have my actions follow suit. Which why I have been very forthcoming online about what people who see me daily have already noticed: I got plastic surgery! On December 11, 2019, I got a BBL, which is when they take the fat out … Continue reading New Body, New Experiences, New Navigations
It is always interesting to me who we allow to get away with what things - if they’re rich enough, desirable enough, funny enough, or popular enough, we give them a pass on just about anything. I’ve seen that today with Mr. Emo Black Thot. Social media, to an extent is about branding. I know … Continue reading Real Black Women
As I’ve been thinking heavily about what I want to write my dissertation on (thinking of a solid topic is the first part of the grueling dissertation process) and I’ve been given tons of the obvious tips; write about something not discussed in the field, write about something you can’t stop thinking about, write about … Continue reading Critical Slut Theory
If you're a student like me, you're probably feeling useless as fuck now that summer is rolling around. It's definitely a Hot Girl Summer, but a bitch is depressed and feeling purposeless - and bored. Which means that now is the perfect time to start forming some good habits that we can take into the … Continue reading 4 Habits To Start In The Summer
“I’m so excited to hang out with you this weekend,” my coworker told me before we left for the day. Being the only Black girls at our job, we (of course) decided to hang out outside the office confines of White Supremacy™. “Same, sis. I need to go to the beauty supply before we hang, … Continue reading Suburban Black girls and their fetish for all things hood
Infidelity in that of itself does not define abuse. It is a horrible thing to do, yes, but doing that alone is not abuse. But it isn't hard to see that abusive relationships often have an element of cheating, or the abuser not staying faithful - usually to make sure the victim knows that they … Continue reading Your Abuse Is Not Your End
We all dread waking up early in the morning, especially after a long night of working (or fucking around). However, the most important part of anyone’s day is the morning! So what do all successful women have in common? They all have rituals they do when the sun rises to help them have the most … Continue reading Morning Routines of Successful Women
I am a survivor who is reminded every time I go home that I have been hurt and abused. But while it is apart of me, it is not in the definition of who I am.